As I meander through Melbourne's streets, a familiar sight at a local café captures my attention. A gathering of 8–10 elderly gentlemen, engrossed in animated conversations and laughter, offers a glimpse into the heart of male resilience and connection.

These men, likely retired, make this café their daily rendezvous point. Their interactions, filled with laughter and lively discussions, raise a curious question: How did their paths cross, and what stories bind them to this Melbourne café over the years?

Observing them, I can't help but notice the sun's imprint on their skin, a testament to both life's physical and emotional challenges. Yet, their engagement and connection paint a vivid picture of camaraderie and support.

This scene is not unique to this café but represents a universal need for connection among men. The Australian Bureau of Statistics' 2022 report on male suicide sheds light on a grim reality: 75% of the 3000 suicides in Australia were men, a clarion call for urgent change.

My professional and personal journey in resilience, including a presentation at the Australian Counsellors Association conference, has reinforced my belief in the life-saving power of male connections. Be it through social groups, sports clubs, or pubs, these bonds can be vital in preserving lives.

My research supports this: I lead a support group for fathers who have children coming out as gay later in life. A recent survey from this group revealed a stark decrease in suicidality from 90% to 25% after these men found a supportive community. This underscores the critical role of safe spaces and peer support in fostering resilience and reducing isolation.

Our group, spanning over 800 men across six continents, demonstrates the transformative effect of shared experiences. Monthly Zoom calls offer these men a platform to connect, empathise, and support each other, echoing the camaraderie of the men in the café.

By promoting inclusive environments, we can dismantle barriers to seeking help and foster a sense of belonging. This not only improves mental well-being but also cultivates resilience, enabling individuals to navigate life's challenges with greater strength.

In essence, just like the men in the café, those grappling with life's trials can find solace and strength in community support. Through connection and understanding, we can build a more resilient and emotionally healthy male community.

If you'd like to talk more about coming out later in life, connect with Shaun for a free and confidential Discovery Call.