International Men’s Day: Mental and Physical Health Matter
Day 19 of 30
As a dedicated mental health advocate and counsellor, I’ve come to value just how powerful open, honest conversations about mental health can be. This November, I’m embarking on a 30-day writing journey, sharing a new mental health article each day, not only to raise awareness but to raise funds for Movember.
As we mark International Men’s Day on November 19, it's the perfect opportunity to shine a light on the importance of men’s mental and physical health. It’s also a great time as a gay man in a relationship with a wonderful man to thank the men in our lives for everything they do. Thank you also to all the brothers, fathers, sons, trans men, and queer presenting men. This year’s theme centres on redefining masculinity and challenging outdated stereotypes. For too long, society has associated masculinity with stoicism, strength, and silence—qualities that often prevent men from seeking the help they need. Movember’s campaign this month invites us to rethink these norms and foster an environment where men feel empowered to prioritise their well-being.
The State of Men’s Health
Statistics reveal alarming trends in men’s mental and physical health. Globally, men are 75% more likely to die by suicide than women. In Australia, approximately six men take their own lives every day. These figures highlight the urgent need to address the barriers that prevent men from seeking support.
Cultural expectations perpetuate harmful ideas, such as “real men don’t cry” or “tough it out.” These notions create a stigma around mental health, discouraging men from reaching out for help. International Men’s Day challenges this narrative by celebrating the strength found in vulnerability and the courage it takes to seek support.
Physical health also plays a critical role in men’s overall well-being. Prostate and testicular cancer remain leading concerns, and early detection through routine health check-ups can save lives. Together, mental and physical health form the foundation of a happier, healthier life.
The Courage to Speak Up
Acknowledging vulnerability is a sign of strength, not weakness. When men open up about their struggles, they not only lighten their emotional load but also encourage others to do the same. Movember champions this message, urging men to check in on one another and start simple yet meaningful conversations.
A question as straightforward as “How are you really doing?” or listening without judgement can be a lifeline for someone feeling isolated. These small gestures of connection create safe spaces for men to feel seen and supported. In the LGBTQIA+ space it’s just as important to make sure the men are doing okay.
Redefining Masculinity
Modern masculinity is evolving. A more inclusive and balanced perspective is replacing outdated ideals of emotional suppression and unrelenting toughness. Men are increasingly embracing roles as caregivers, building deeper relationships, and showing empathy. Strength is no longer about hiding emotions; it’s about embracing them. Resilience doesn’t mean enduring alone—it means knowing when to ask for help.
Movember and International Men’s Day serve as platforms to redefine what it means to be a man. Just as we prioritise physical health through regular check-ups and exercise, we must normalise therapy, mental health check-ins, and self-care for men.
Practical Tips for Better Mental and Physical Health
Taking care of mental and physical health doesn’t need to be complicated.
Here are five practical steps:
Build Connections: Reach out to friends, family, or a community group. Building a strong network reduces feelings of isolation and promotes emotional well-being.
Prioritise Physical Health: Exercise, sleep, and a balanced diet contribute significantly to mental health. Regular health check-ups, including screenings for prostate and testicular cancer, are essential for prevention and early detection.
Seek Professional Help: Counsellors and therapists provide tools to navigate challenging emotions. Therapy is a proactive choice that strengthens mental resilience.
Talk About It: Share your feelings with someone you trust—a mate, a partner, or a support group. Open conversations reduce stigma and foster connection.
Engage in Self-Care: Make time for activities that bring joy and relaxation. Hobbies, mindfulness practices, or simply unwinding are crucial for emotional balance.
Spotlight on Movember and Men’s Health Initiatives
Movember is not just about growing a moustache—it’s about growing awareness for men’s mental and physical health. The campaign highlights issues such as prostate cancer, testicular cancer, and suicide prevention. Participating in challenges like ‘Move for Movember’ or donating to the cause directly impacts efforts to support men.
Routine health check-ups are just as vital as mental health initiatives. Early detection of illnesses, combined with regular physical activity, can improve life expectancy and quality of life. Movember’s work reminds us that mental and physical health are inseparable.
Creating Safe Spaces for Men
Workplaces, community groups, and families all play a role in creating environments where men feel safe to express themselves. Simple measures—such as normalising discussions about mental health and providing resources—encourage men to open up. Educational programmes and campaigns like Movember pave the way for these crucial conversations.
Peer Support groups such as Gay Fathers Worldwide or Community Couch Conversations are full of amazing men talking and showing vulnerability and love to other men, something that I am incredibly proud of.
As a society, we must ask: Are we doing enough to support men? Opening safe spaces, offering resources, and challenging stereotypes are essential steps towards a healthier future.
Celebrate the Men in Your Life
International Men’s Day is also an opportunity to celebrate the men in our lives who make a difference. Whether it’s a father, partner, brother, or friend, take the time to let them know they are appreciated. Acts of gratitude not only strengthen bonds but also remind men that they matter. As I said, I’m incredibly grateful for my partner and everything he does in this world.
Moving Forward Together
International Men’s Day reminds us that mental and physical health are not solitary journeys. By standing together, we can dismantle barriers, challenge harmful norms, and create a world where men feel valued and supported.
This Movember, take your own steps to redefine masculinity, prioritise health, and foster meaningful connections. Together, we can inspire men to live longer, happier, and healthier lives.
These articles tackle vital topics related to mental well-being, many of them drawn directly from my own experiences and insights gained through my work in Bent Couch Counselling.
Movember’s mission is to support men’s mental health, address prostate and testicular cancer, and prevent suicide, which is a cause close to my heart. My personal connection to Gay Fathers Worldwide has encouraged me to raise $10,000 as part of Movember. I encourage you to donate here to an incredible cause.
By sharing personal perspectives and strategies over these 30 days, I hope to foster deeper understanding and connection around mental health issues. This project is about more than just reading or writing; it's about taking action.
I hope sharing my experience can be a guide, perhaps even a comfort, for others on a similar path.