Taking the First Step: When You’re Ready to Do the Work
Day 17 of 30
As a dedicated mental health advocate and counsellor, I’ve come to value just how powerful open, honest conversations about mental health can be. This November, I’m embarking on a 30-day writing journey, sharing a new mental health article each day, not only to raise awareness but to raise funds for Movember.
You know the view from the mountaintop will be breathtaking, and the journey will be worth it, but first, you have to pack your gear and decide you’re ready to take that first step. The climb won’t always be easy; there will be rocky trails, difficult terrain, and moments when you want to turn back. But with the right guide by your side and a willingness to keep moving forward, you’ll discover strength and resilience you never knew you had.
Seeking counselling, just like climbing a mountain, can be a difficult but also a significant and rewarding step. The real journey begins when you are ready to do the work, not just by showing up and expecting all the answers to be given to you, but really committing to meaningful, and often difficult, growth.
If you’re wondering whether now is the right time to start counselling or deepen your commitment to personal change, this article will explore what it means to be truly ready to do the work.
What Does “Doing the Work” mean in Counselling?
Counselling isn’t a quick fix or a solitary process. It’s about working in a space of honest reflection, challenging unhelpful patterns, and fostering personal growth.
Doing the work means:
Engaging actively in sessions by sharing openly and honestly.
Reflecting on your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours between sessions.
Implementing strategies discussed with your counsellor into your daily life.
Embracing discomfort as part of the growth process.
It’s not about being “perfectly ready” or having all the answers. It’s about showing up with a willingness to try, learn, and grow.
Signs You’re Ready to Commit to Counselling
Not sure if you’re ready to dive in? Here are 5 signs that you’re prepared to engage fully in the counselling process:
1. You recognise that something needs to change.
Whether it’s persistent anxiety, struggles with relationships, or a sense of being stuck, you acknowledge that continuing as is isn’t sustainable. This awareness is a powerful first step.
2. You’re Open to Exploring Your Inner World
Counselling often involves digging deeper into your thoughts, emotions, and past experiences. Being open to this exploration, even when it’s challenging, is key.
3. You’re Ready to Be Honest
Honesty with yourself and your counsellor is essential. It’s okay if you’re still figuring things out—what matters is your willingness to be truthful about where you are.
4. You accept that growth takes strength.
There’s no shortcut to healing. You’re prepared to face difficult feelings, practice new skills, and take gradual steps toward change.
5. You Understand That Setbacks Are Part of the Process
Growth isn’t linear, and setbacks are a natural part of the journey. If you’re ready to embrace imperfection and keep moving forward, you’re in the right mindset.
How We Can Support You
I proudly specialise in creating a safe and affirming space for individuals to navigate life’s challenges. My approach is particularly tailored to LGBTQIA+ clients, especially men, offering an inclusive and compassionate environment where you can explore issues like:
Burnout and stress management
Shame and self-worth
Sexual health and relationships
Anxiety and depression
Building resilience and connection
I believe that everyone’s journey, just like you, is unique, and my role is to travel alongside you, providing guidance and tools to empower your progress.
What If You’re Not Sure You’re Ready?
If you’re uncertain about whether you’re ready for counselling, that’s okay. Sometimes, the act of reaching out is the first step towards clarity. A Discovery Call offers a no-pressure opportunity to explore your needs and goals, helping you decide if now is the right time.
During this free call, we will:
Discuss what you’d like to address in counselling.
Answer any questions about the process.
Help you identify whether you’re ready to begin or if there are smaller steps you can take first.
Practical Steps to Prepare for Counselling
If you’re eager to start but feel unsure about what to expect, here are a few steps to help you prepare for the journey:
1. Reflect on Your Goals
What would you like to achieve through counselling? Whether it’s reducing anxiety, improving relationships, or building confidence, having a clear sense of your goals can guide your sessions.
2. Be Kind to Yourself
Starting counselling can feel daunting, but it’s an act of self-care and courage. Remind yourself that it’s okay to feel nervous or uncertain.
3. Commit to the Process
Change doesn’t happen overnight, and that’s okay. Trust in the process and in your ability to grow with time and effort.
4. Stay open to feedback.
Your counsellor may challenge your perspectives or encourage you to try new approaches. Staying open to their guidance can lead to powerful breakthroughs.
Your Next Step Towards Growth
If you’re ready—or even just curious—about taking the next step in your journey, I’m here to support you. My compassionate and professional assistance is designed to help you navigate life’s challenges and embrace your authentic self.
Book your free Discovery Call today and find out how counselling can empower you to create lasting, meaningful change. Together, we can turn your readiness into real growth.
Deciding to do the work in counselling is a powerful act of self-commitment. It’s not about being perfect; it’s about showing up for yourself with honesty and a willingness to grow. At Bent Couch Counselling, I’m here to help you on this transformative journey, providing a safe, inclusive space to explore your challenges and discover your strength.
Take that first step. You’re worth it.
These articles tackle vital topics related to mental well-being, many of them drawn directly from my own experiences and insights gained through my work in Bent Couch Counselling.
Movember’s mission is to support men’s mental health, address prostate and testicular cancer, and prevent suicide, which is a cause close to my heart. My personal connection to Gay Fathers Worldwide has encouraged me to raise $10,000 as part of Movember. I encourage you to donate here to an incredible cause.
By sharing personal perspectives and strategies over these 30 days, I hope to foster deeper understanding and connection around mental health issues. This project is about more than just reading or writing; it's about taking action.
I hope sharing my experience can be a guide, perhaps even a comfort, for others on a similar path.
